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Velcro & Teflon Theory

A neuroscientist named Dr. Rick Hanson discovered that the human brain has a natural negativity bias to internalize negative experiences more deeply than positive ones. According to Dr. Hanson, the brain is like velcro for negative experiences and teflon for positive ones.

When you have a negative, fear based, shameful experience or an insecure thought, your mind wraps around it like velcro. When you have a positive experience, for example – when you receive a compliment or somebody affirms and congratulations you, it slides off like melted butter on a teflon skillet. Our brains are hardwired to remember negative experiences and quickly forget positive experiences.

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How Screen Time Impacts Your Concentration

Concentration

Gloria Mark, a professor of informatics at the University of California at Irvine, reported that the median length of time people can hold their attention in front of a computer screen or phone is 40 seconds.

In other words, about every 40 seconds most people get distracted and switch actions. Consider your own cell phone habits. Now picture the following scenario: You’re writing an email for work or a paper for class when you receive a phone notification from on Facebook (or TikTok, Instagram, Whatsapp, etc). Next you open the message and click on the link that you received from your friend and before you even realize it you’re trying to buy toilet paper from Amazon!

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On Waiting for Permission

Self-care

If you are waiting for somebody to give you permission, then it may never happen. If the change that you want to experience in your life is contingent on somebody else, than there may be no end to your waiting. Nobody is going to give you permission.

And by the way, you don’t need their permission anyway. Your life is your own and you can just do it.

There will also never be a perfect time.

Waiting for permission to speak will silence your voice when authority overlooks you.

Holding out for permission to rest will exhaust your motivation and steal away your passion.

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